Well, we have successfully made it through the first month (almost 2 months) of marriage and here are some things I’ve learned:
1. Marriage is compromise – Case in point, my husband LOVES the house to be cold. I like our house to be on the cool side, not the freezing side. Currently I’m working in my office upstairs and the upstairs is 65 degrees… I am getting plenty of use of my big warm fuzzy socks (seriously, anyone taking notes for Christmas gifts, big fuzzy socks, always a plus). I love Christmas decorations, he would be fine without them, however, we have a 9′ tree up in our living room, two smaller trees going up this week, wreaths on all the windows and lights going up this week. Compromise isn’t bad.
2. Marriage is Thankful – I have always enjoyed cooking, but it is really nice to have someone to cook for. Also the fact that he will eat almost anything I put in front of him is completely a plus. I’ve tried several new recipes in addition to the “tried and true” and without fail he has “enjoyed” all of them. So far only one major miss (Pinterest Fail). I asked him once what he thought about my cooking and his response “You are making wonderful meals for our family and they are made with love… why wouldn’t I enjoy them?” I should take lessons from him on being Thankful.
3. Marriage is agreeing to be different – My husband and I both run. Okay he runs, I’m a jogger most of the time. I am “that” runner that waves at EVERYONE and says hi and is completely annoying. Hubby on the other hand, is the in-the-zone, focused runner. Seriously people jump out of his way. Because of this we decided that running together might not be the best idea. Thus, we run at the same time, at the same park, but in different directions. I wave at him, he has learned to at least smile at me (otherwise I will turn around and be annoying behind him going “hi..hi?”).
4. Marriage is change – I am a planner. I think that ANYONE who knows me can attest to that. I have my list of things I want to do and when I want to do them. Hubs is a planner, however, his job does not allow him the flexibility to do so. Thus, I’m having to learn to let go of constantly being in charge, constantly knowing what is going on and constantly having a plan. At times it is nice and at times makes me want to go crazy. I am working on adjusting to change.
5. Marriage is Patience – If I haven’t admitted it on this blog, I adore china and dishes! When we were packing my stuff up to move, my soon-to-be husband asked (within his right) “Do you actually use all this? Why do you have so much? What purpose does it serve?” (Ok he might not have asked like that , but that is the translated version of what he asked.) We got everything packed up, moved and unpacked. Every. Last. Piece. Bless his heart, he put up with my unpacking every piece so carefully and debating all the places I should put it. He helped with a smile (and a large adult beverage!). Another time, when we first went to the PX (Post Exchange) and I had NEVER EVER been in such a cool place! Everything was at such great prices and you know… tax free! I was walking around like a child holding up EVERYTHING and saying (sometimes a little too loudly) “This is such a great deal! We totally should get this!” and his patient and eyes rolling response “Honey, we have four 9″ x 13″ baking dishes already, do we need a set of two more?” Followed by a big hug and a kiss (probably to distract me from whatever else I was looking at).
Marriage has been wonderful and exciting and I’m sure at times wearing on my husband’s patience and nerves as we have consolidated everything to his house. It has also been this fun adventure into figuring out how to live and function together without creating mass mayhem and destruction!
Until We Meet Again,